Moving Forward: Part Two

Learn to say no, it is the best gift you could give yourself. “No, that’s not going to work for me” is a phrase one should maybe tattoo someplace. Too much, how about a beaded necklace or bracelet bearing this phrase?

This is not a new concept it is just difficult to master. Oprah talked about it for some time, it was difficult for her but rewarding. It is powerful to say no, it means you don’t do things you do not want to do. In the life of women of size it teaches you to stand up for yourself. More often than not you do not  owe others an explanation.  A good strategy, if you are having difficulty saying no,  say “let me think about it and get back to you.”  Even if you say yes after thinking it through you may still have room to go back and say, “on further reflection….”

My friend is 68 and gets asked to babysit her grandchildren often. It is way too much for her under certain situations. She just says ok to it all. What is wrong with saying no to the things that don’t work for you? What is the worst that can happen? Chances are her daughter already knows it is too much and likely feels a bit guilty. It is human nature to take advantage of a situation like this but she would probably be open to changing things.

Maybe one should ask oneself how different life would feel by just saying “no” when it works for you!